Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Positive Self-Talk!

Positive Self-Talk!
By Allen Merritt (©2017)

There is a scene from one of the Focker films referencing the thought of learning to self-sooth, meaning to allow the individual to find ways to comfort and calm themselves without intervention. Of course, this was specific to a crying baby. However, it makes sense for adults, too.

How does a person make themselves feel better in uncertain times, times of conflict, struggle, strife and general unhappiness no matter where these stem from?

In the past, I have written a lot about the many ways to work on personal outlook and positive well being. Today I want to explore further options.

Positive self-talk is one way to work on enhancing our positive living experience. Finding something good to say about or for oneself can be likened to a verbal pat on the back or a means of giving oneself an “at-a-boy/girl!” vote of confidence.

Reiteration of such self-talk principles instills the positive over time. In other words, it makes sense to keep talking yourself up! We have to envision our future and see it happening. And, it might as well be a good one.

These acts of self encouragement aide us in our self-soothing, as well as in our self- promotion. It’s an internal conversation designed to motivate, inspire and persuade, which greatly impacts our daily attitude.

So be reminded of the following:
  • Positive affirmations help redirect us toward positive well being.
  • Stop the negative focusing by staying away from the “Can’ts” and “Don’ts”
  • Refuse to dwell in uncontrollable circumstances. Make better of them instead.
  • Continue to create your own motivational statements or mantras.
  • Begin a tracking system either by worksheet or utilizing sticky notes. See where you started and where you are going.
  • Counteract irrational belief systems. Worrying about what may be or too many 'what ifs' deprives you of enjoying the here and now.

These things build confidence and self esteem. Anything which is anxiety driven and interferes with personal growth and well being is counterproductive and probably leads to unrealistic expectations and irrational thought patterns.¹  

Sometimes finding a positive outlook in the midst of a firestorm or in general isn’t easy, but persistence will lead to perseverance. We have to purposefully and intentionally counteract the negatives with the positives. Here is an article worth reading from Psychology Today highlighting positive self-talk.


Another great resource I want to share offers some great exercises anyone can use to help strengthen ones positive outlook.  For example, writing a self-compassionate letter about perceived inadequacies followed by an additional letter written from the perspective of being on the outside looking in; taking a daily vacation (break from everything); turning everything off and engaging in an imaginary journey toward your best possible self; or, an exercise focusing on personal strengths as opposed to weaknesses. ²

Bottom line is this; positive self talk in any format promotes improving our personal outlook and aims it directly toward positive well being.

Take advantage of the many positive self talk and positivity exercises/programs available or create your own to make the most of every day and feel great about yourself.

Enjoy the week and have a great time exploring life on a positive note.

Cheers!

http://opawinningteams.com/winning-the-mental-game-the-power-of-positive-self-talk-2/¹ (Viewed on 12/30/2017)

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/positive-psychology-exercises/#positive-psychology-techniques² (Viewed on 12/30/2017)

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