Backed Into a Corner!

Backed Into a Corner!

By Allen Merritt ©2018

Yesterday, I sat in the coffee shop shuffling through social media applications when all of a sudden a small, young, white, blonde hair girl rushed into the place heading toward the bathrooms, which were both locked. She was frantic. Not only that, but she was backed into a corner. Not a moment later two hefty African American women appeared nipping at her heels. It was evident a fight might ensue.

I looked up and paid close attention.

The two girls literally blocked the other one so there was no way for her to escape while they pointed fingers in her face. The young girl was screaming, “Leave me alone. I’m having a bad day. Get away from me.”

One of the two girls on the attack said something like, “Go ahead and call me the “N” word again.”

It quickly became clear that a verbal slander may have taken place outside and the two girls were not going to let it go. Instead, they wanted to defend themselves against such things by giving the single girl a verbal thrashing as well, along with a few raised fists.

One of the coffee shop employees (a tall young man) soon arrived onto the scene to help all three ladies understand they were not going to be able to have their little escapade on the property. He asked them to leave.

The two girls calmly left without causing further disturbance.

The single girl was still defensive as she left doing everything she could to get the others off her trail.

Now, I cannot tell you exactly what happened. But if I were to guess, the single girl may have let loose an unfortunate derogatory comment, which didn’t land two well with the other girls creating a negative circumstance and causing a tirade.

When people attack other people verbal or otherwise, intentional or unintentional, there is always an impact. Feelings are hurt. Tempers flare. Hate begets hate.

There is a lesson here to learn. If we put out the negative vibes, we can expect them to come back around to us and sometimes all too quickly. I’ve seen it happen more than once. Think of all the sayings verifying this idea.

What goes around comes around.

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

Misery loves company.

What you put out there comes right back to you.

Karma! Karma! Karma!

It occurs to me how if any person on this planet wants to nurture and grow a peaceful environment, effort must be initiated to do so. We must think twice before we speak. It doesn’t matter if we are having a bad day or not. Limit what you say until you day is getting better; until you have a grasp on self-control. This includes writing emails and sending out tweets.

A public display of anger disrupts everything and encourages others to do the same.

We live in an age where well known individuals are encouraging others to rally up against each other to the point of fighting, shooting and ultimately death. It makes no sense to me, but it happens nonetheless.

People who bully, shame and inflict pain on others need to stop, but nobody seems interested in following through with improving human relations by setting better examples of how to do so.

In fact, I can tell you that I like to post positive messages and pictures of things I see supporting these ideals in the real world. What I have noticed is very few people will notice or respond to such postings. For example, I posted a mural I found which simply stated, “PEACE” and it received very little “Likes.” I found the same was true for another mural reading, “GRATITUDE.” What this demonstrates to me is a how most individuals may say they believe in supporting ideas of peace, joy, gratitude, encouragement and similar terms; but when push comes to shove they really do NOT support it.

The other side of the coin shows a glimmer of truth for what IS supported. People will indicate they “LIKE” all sorts of negative commentary.

My message today is founded on the principle that it doesn’t take much to right a situation and make it better. The tongue may be sharper than the sword, but it can also provide a measure of good healing when utilized properly.

Why put yourself into a situation where you may be backed into a corner?

Interestingly enough, not once did I hear an apology or any effort to diffuse the situation from the parties involved. Who knows what would have happened should someone not have intervened at least to advise them they are in the wrong place to display such behavior.

Moreover, I found myself sending out some good prayerful thoughts that nothing more serious would happen outside the coffee shop or further down the street as a result of what I witnessed.

People are getting all riled up and allowing themselves to fire off in anger too easily these days. Many of them are getting caught in the act. Why? Because it simply is wrong no matter how you look at it. The news is fraught with these situations being caught on video. Those inciting individuals are losing their jobs, reputations and experiencing further negative circumstances as a result of flying off the handle for no legitimate reason. They are also often times misrepresenting the truth. In other words, they are making up stories and trying to sell them as truth. And, it isn’t working!

Don’t let this happen to you. Keep life on the up and up and personify joy and a little more understanding. Don’t let yourself get backed into a corner or caught in such a mess. What good will it do to cause another person such pain except to experience as much pain yourself in return?

Personify positivity!

Allow the positive to emanate within and without.

Then we nurture peace, as well as grow self-esteem and confidence.

It’s something to think about this week as we endeavor to live life on a positive note.

Have a good one.

Cheers!