Yes is Yours!
© By Allen Merritt
(2017)
Yes!
Yup!
Indubitably!
See where I am going with this? Last week we
explored the word, “No.” This week I want to extrapolate more on the word, “Yes.”
Oh, YES I do!
“Yes” is a word that
sounds so good, doesn't it? You can say it over and over again, it still sounds
good. Not only that, it feels good too. And who doesn’t want to feel
good!
“Yes” is affirmative, positive and also serves as a mantra for which we can use all the time to build confidence, self-esteem and lift our spirits. It gives us permission and tells us it’s okay. Do you feel that when you hear the word “Yes”? I do!
So let’s talk about "YES", because I don’t think we can talk enough about it.
I believe “Yes” can work for us more than against us. Even in the face of hearing a “No” or experiencing a backlash of negativity, “Yes” aides and comforts us while looking for an amiable solution(s).
If opposites attract, than “No” invites us to immediately consider the positive. By doing so, we can consciously choose peace, joy, harmony, love, light and laughter for the whole of our being including our heart, mind, soul, body, spirit and senses. It also impacts the world around us which makes sense when considering the ripple effect or impact of kindness or contagious smiles and laughter. It all promotes the feel good theory for everyone.
If you are constantly being told you can’t do this and you can’t do that, you start to wonder just what it is you can do and when you CAN do it. What happens if we accept and embrace the idea of possibility a little more? Is it possible we relax and allow and reap more benefits than harm? I would dare say the chances are in our favor more than against us. Again, this takes as much reasoning as considering all those “No’s” we spoke of last week. We cannot just automatically say “Yes” without considering outcomes and timing. There are benefits to both answers that weigh in on both sides of the issue. (I have included a couple of links below discussing these benefits for your perusal)¹&²
“Yes” is affirmative, positive and also serves as a mantra for which we can use all the time to build confidence, self-esteem and lift our spirits. It gives us permission and tells us it’s okay. Do you feel that when you hear the word “Yes”? I do!
So let’s talk about "YES", because I don’t think we can talk enough about it.
I believe “Yes” can work for us more than against us. Even in the face of hearing a “No” or experiencing a backlash of negativity, “Yes” aides and comforts us while looking for an amiable solution(s).
If opposites attract, than “No” invites us to immediately consider the positive. By doing so, we can consciously choose peace, joy, harmony, love, light and laughter for the whole of our being including our heart, mind, soul, body, spirit and senses. It also impacts the world around us which makes sense when considering the ripple effect or impact of kindness or contagious smiles and laughter. It all promotes the feel good theory for everyone.
If you are constantly being told you can’t do this and you can’t do that, you start to wonder just what it is you can do and when you CAN do it. What happens if we accept and embrace the idea of possibility a little more? Is it possible we relax and allow and reap more benefits than harm? I would dare say the chances are in our favor more than against us. Again, this takes as much reasoning as considering all those “No’s” we spoke of last week. We cannot just automatically say “Yes” without considering outcomes and timing. There are benefits to both answers that weigh in on both sides of the issue. (I have included a couple of links below discussing these benefits for your perusal)¹&²
Overall, whether the answer truly is based on “No”
or “Yes” is determined accordingly by the individual. Which is best? Only you can decide.
Naturally, I am focused on the positive, so in these
discussions I am speaking specifically about the negative version of the word “No”
versus the positive version of the word “Yes.” But one might reflect on either
or. Considering both sides of the story must come into play. In any case,
promoting the “Yes” helps us see more and mover closer to the goal, achievement
and/or accomplishment any of us are seeking.
Ultimately, the best answers are always based on
individual differences. But we cannot be afraid to (again) turn things around
and stand on the positive principal. For me, this is reminding yourself from time
to time it’s okay to say “Yes”.
Moving forward in life requires it. It gives us authority
and opportunity. My thought is this: we can either sit around and let “No” talk
us out of our dreams; sit there in our places and never move anywhere; or, we
can take a chance and not let anyone tell us we can’t do it/something.
One final story that hits home with me on this topic
is how my mother used to say the words, “You can’t…” to me. When she did that I
would internalize it and get angry and endeavor to prove her wrong. Ultimately,
I may not have been the best at a task, but I could prove to myself I was
capable and able despite such comments.
In conclusion, think this week on both sides of the
story. If “No serves up a “Yes” for you in some capacity, embrace it. However,
if “No” is holding you back from trying to be the best person you can be and
conflicts with your desire to achieve, then work on letting that negativity go
and seek out positive outcomes instead; no matter what others might think or
say. It’s not about them. It’s about you. It’s your life. Therefore it has to
include YOU.
If for no other reason, say “Yes” to YOU more often
or whenever appropriate.
Have a great week living life on a positive note.
Cheers!
https://www.theodysseyonline.com/the-many-benefits-saying-yes/(Viewed
on 2/10/2017)¹
http://justbereal.co.uk/5-benefits-of-saying-no-more-often/(Viewed
on 2/10/2017)²